Before you say the hard thing
You know something matters. You just do not know how to start.
Use this free one-page planner to put one concern into plain words. Write down what happened, what matters to you, one specific request and your opening sentence. Leave room for a pause and a practical next step.
One-page PDF. Print it or annotate it in a PDF app. No signup required. The writing spaces are not interactive form fields.
Start small
Choose one manageable issue, not the whole history of a relationship. Read your first sentence once and change anything that does not sound like you.
A planner cannot make another person agree. If speaking up could put you at risk, prioritise private support rather than a direct confrontation. This is an educational resource, not therapy or crisis support.
Want more than a starting page?
Say the Hard Thing is a paid 20-page PDF workbook. It adds a completed planner, three worked conversations, responses to difficult answers, agreement and repair prompts, and a seven-day practice route. It does not include coaching or therapy and cannot guarantee a particular response.
AI-assisted editorial resource adapted from Say the Hard Thing. Examples are fictional.